Quotebook

Anxiety is often trapped sympathetic energy.

The father who reclaims his wife and engages his child on his own terms protects them both from lingering overlong in a ‘fusional’ or symbiotic state and facilitates the separation and individuation process

Nature is not designed for: - happiness - coherence - mental peace - or even survival of individuals It is designed for one thing: making copies that are just good enough to keep going. Everything else is a side effect

The attractive and attracting father stakes a claim on his child and, with mother’s help, enables the child to move from the exclusivity of the infant-mother relationship into an inclusive position as part of a preOedipal triad.

Sexualised suicidal imagery is not about sex or death. It is about what happens when your attachment system feels violated and has no safe way to push back.

All defenses operate unconsciously, have their roots in childhood, and aim to reduce anxiety by distorting thinking and memory, and creating symptoms

Being imperfect and being loved can coexist.

Οι άνθρωποι σκοντάφτουν σε λιθάρια και όχι σε βουνά

Ένας άνθρωπος χωρίς εχθρούς είναι άνθρωπος χωρίς αξία.

Αν το μόνο σου όπλο είναι το σφυρί, αντιμετώπισε όλα τα προβλήματά σου σαν να ήταν πρόκες.

Το μέλλον αγοράζεται με το παρόν

Δεν μαθαίνω ποτέ μιλώντας. Κάθε πρωί συνειδητοποιώ ότι τίποτα απ' όσα έχω κάνει δεν θα μου αφήσουν κάτι. Αν λοιπόν θέλω να μάθω, πρέπει να ακούσω.

Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love

Quia Costodiet Ipsos Custodes (and.. who will guard the guardians?)

Μην απαρνείσαι ποτέ την ίδια σου την πείρα ή τις πεποιθήσεις σου «για χάρη της ηρεμίας και της ησυχίας»

Το ταλέντο σου μην το κρύβεις. Για χρήση είναι φτιαγμένο. Τι είναι το ηλιακό ρολόι στη σκιά;

Μόνο εκείνοι που τολμούν να αποτυγχάνουν μπορούν να πετύχουν πολλά

Από όλες τις κριτικές που υφιστάμεθα από τη ζωή, καμία δεν είναι πιο σημαντική από την κριτική που κάνουμε εμείς στον εαυτό μας.

Αν η κατάσταση της καρδίας σου εξαρτάται πάντοντε από το τι σκέπτονται οι άλλοι για εσένα, έχεις κολλήσει σε ένα ακόμα κλειστό σύστημα στο οποίο πρέπει να καταπιέζεις τον εαυτό σου για να κερδίσεις αγάπη.

Πολλές αποτυχίες στην ζωή προέρχονται από ανθρώπους που δεν αντιλήφθηκαν όταν τα παράτησαν πόσο κοντά βρίσκονταν στην επιτυχία.

Είμαι 67 χρονών, αλλά δεν είμαι πολύ μεγάλος για να κάνω μια νέα αρχή.

Η πρώτη και καλύτερη νίκη είναι να κατακτήσεις τον εαυτό σου.

Εκείνος που δεν κάνει λάθος, δεν κάνει και πρόοδο.

Όσο πιο πολύ απελευθερώνουμε τις θαμμένες πληγές του χτες, τόσο περισσότερο ανοίγουμε την καρδιά μας στους βυθισμένους θησαυρούς του αύριο

Η ζωή δεν δίνει ποτέ περισσότερα από αυτά που δεν μπορείς να χειριστείς

Αυτός που δεν κάνει λάθη, συνήθως δεν κάνει τίποτα.

Η αγάπη είναι ο θρίαμβος της φαντασίας επί της λογικής.

Αυτά που θεωρούμε απαραίτητα είναι η πηγή της δυστυχίας μας

Όταν απογοητευόμαστε από κάποιες πράξεις μας υποσκάπτουμε θεμέλια της ύπαρξής μας

Ποτέ δεν πρέπει να κατηγορείς τον εαυτό σου για την στάση κάποιου άλλου απέναντι σου. Κάνοντας κάτι τέτοιο παρέχεις δύναμη στο άτομο αυτό.

Πίσω από ένα θυμωμένο πρόσωπο κρύβεται ένα πολύ ευαίσθητο άτομο, και όχι ένας δυνατός άνθρωπος γεμάτος αυτοπεποίθηση. Οι άνθρωποι που νιώθουν αυτοπεποίθηση δεν χρειάζεται να θυμώνουν συχνά επειδή σπανιότερα νιώθουν ότι απειλούνται.

Αμαθής είναι εκείνος που δε γνωρίζει αυτό που μόλις έμαθες.

Είναι καλύτερο να αγαπάς έναν άνθρωπο που δεν αξίζει την αγάπη σου παρά να μισείς έναν άνθρωπο που αξίζει το μίσος σου.

Η τιμωρία του ψεύτη δεν είναι ότι δεν τον πιστεύουν οι άλλοι, αλλά ότι ο ίδιος δεν πιστεύει κανέναν.

Οι καλοί τρόποι είναι σαν το μηδέν. Δεν σημαίνει τίποτα από μόνο του, αλλά προσθέτει αξία σε όλες τις πράξεις.

Να δημιουργείς σαν αθάνατος και να ζεις σαν ετοιμοθάνατος.

Το ψέμα είναι πάντα η έκφραση του φόβου σε κάποια του μορφή.

Από δύο απαίδευτα έθνη καθώς και από δύο εξίσου απαίδευτα πρόσωπα, το πλουσιότερο είναι το ελεεινότερο.

Αν παντρευτείς θα έχεις στεναχώριες. Αν δεν παντρευτείς δεν θα έχεις χαρές.

Είναι καλύτερα να αγωνίζεται κανείς μάταια, παρά να ζει μάταια.

Μόρφωση είναι αυτό που μένει όταν ξεχάσουμε αυτά που διαβάσαμε.

Να βρεις δεν είναι τίποτα. Το δύσκολο είναι να προσθέσεις στον εαυτό σου αυτά που βρήκες.

Μπορείς εύκολα να καταλάβεις την αξία ενός ανθρώπου, από τον τρόπο που μεταχειρίζεται αυτούς που δεν μπορούν να του προσφέρουν πια τίποτε.

Ο καλύτερος τρόπος για να μαντέψεις και να προβλέψεις το μέλλον είναι να το προετοιμάσεις.

Ο έξυπνος άθρωπος αλλάζει γνώμες. Ο ανόητος ποτέ.

Δεν χάνει ο ήλιος τίποτα από την αξία του επειδή η νυχτερίδα δεν καταδέχεται να αντικρύσει το φώς του.

Προσπάθησε να κρίνεις τους ανθρώπους όχι από τα λάθη τους, αλλά από το πως χειρίζονται τα λάθη τους.

Δεν μπορείς να απαγορεύσεις στους ανθρώπους να διαδίδουν για τη ζωή σου. Μπορείς όμως με τη ζωή σου να τους διαψεύσεις.

Για την ευτυχία σε μια σχέση, χρειάζεται κάτι πολύ περισσότερο από το να βρείς το σωστό πρόσωπο. Χρειάζεται να είσαι κι εσύ το σωστό πρόσωπο.

Αλλο η περιαυτολογία και άλλο η αναγνώριση της αξίας του άλλου. Στην πρώτη περίπτωση, χάνουμε όσο πιο πολύ μιλάμε. Στην δεύτερη όσο πιο πολύ σωπαίνουμε.

Ο χρυσός δοκιμάζεται στη φωτιά από τον άνθρωπο. Ο άνθρωπος δοκιμάζεται από τον χρυσό, στην αρετή της τιμιότητας.

Η ευτυχία στη ζωή δεν σε περιμένει στο σταθμό. Συνοδοιπορεί μαζί σου με τον τρόπο που ταξιδεύεις.

Δε με τρομάζει που θα πεθάνω. Θλίβομαι που θα πάψω να ζω. Και δεν είναι το ίδιο. Για να το καταλάβετε, σκεφτείτε όλους εκείνους που έχουν πάψει να ζούν επειδή φοβούνται να πεθάνουν.

Wear the old coat and buy the new book.

A friend is someone who sees through you and still enjoys the view.

The worst solitude is to be destitute of sincere friendship.

If there were in the world today any large number of people who desired their own happiness more than they desired the unhappiness of others, we could have paradise in a few years.

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.

Be yourself, and you will rarely be bored.

Δεν έχει σημασία αν οι άλλοι θέλουν να σε γνωρίσουν. Η γνωριμία είναι πάντα δική σου πρωτοβουλία.

If you never did, you should. These things are fun, and fun is good

Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain

Making mistakes simply means you are learning faster

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

Οι ιδέες και τα πιστεύω είναι πάντα χάρτες της πραγματικότητας και άρα ποτέ δεν την περιγράφουν ολοκληρωτικά. Καλύτερος χάρτης δεν είναι ο πιο λεπτομερής αλλά αυτός με τις τοποθεσίες που εσύ χρειάζεσαι

Their power is your perception of their power. Nobody has any power that you don't give them. You give them all the power that they have.

Your self image determines what happens

You must not lean to anyone. Leaning to somebody communicates insecurity. Your insecurity reminds them of their own vulnerabilities

If you consistently create an emotional state in somebody, they eventually anchor that state to you, even if you weren’t doing it on purpose. If you whine and complain, put yourself or others down, or just talk about shocking or inappropriate things consistently around somebody, they will definitely resent you on some level, even though they might not be aware of it.

It is important to make reality checks, to see what is really going on. But if you are too interested in dispelling things and discovering limitations that you lose a lot.

Women keep saying "What this means?". If you say something directly then she will search for a deeper meaning. If you say something indirectly, she will take the message you actually send.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you'll land among stars

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing

God is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh

Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here

You are not what you think but what you think, you are

Law of sawing and reapping: Whatever you saw, shall you reap. You only reap as a result of having sawn in previous periods

Law of return: The more you put, the moreyou are going to get out. You have to put in before you can get out

Law of compensation: For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Ask your self: "What can you do for them in order to get them to cooperate with you?"

Law of service: In order to achieve any kind of lasting glory or distinction or fame or fortune we can only do it by serving our fellow men with goods and services that are of value and importance to them

Obstacles are what you see when you take your mind off your goal. Mind can only hold one thought at a time, positive or negative. Remember a goal is a positive thought.

By failing to plan, you plan to fail

Worry is a sustained form of fear caused by indecision. Worry is a negative goal setting. It is thinking about and talking about and vividly imagining exactly what we do not want to happen. The only real antidote to worry is purposeful action.

While inability to deal with fear look and feel like a psychological problem, in most cases it isn't. I believe It is primarily an educational problem, and that by reeducating the mind, you can accept fear as simply a fact of life rather than a barrier to success

There are fears that require happen, fears that require action, and fears related to the inner state of the mind. But, at the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can't handle whatever life may bring you.

If you knew that you could handle anything that came your way, what would you possibly have to fear?

All you have to do to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way!

If you cry because the sun has left your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new

Good judgement comes from experience ... experience comes from poor judgement

All the darkness in the world could not put out the light of one small candle

Have the courage to act instead of react

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

A ship in harbor is safe. But that's not what ships are built for

After all, success is ultimately up to the individual. It isn't the pen. It is the writer. It isn't the road. It is the runner that counts

I am one with the universe and it is one with me. I am of it, within it and exist in a shining spark in a firmament of divine goodness.

Wanting to be a positive thinker isn't enough. Making the decision to have a positive attidue isn't enough. The human brain says: "Give me more. Give me the words. Give me the directions, the commands, the picture, the schedule, and the results you want. Then I will do it for you. Give me the words.

The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is the key to allowing yourself to take risks

Saying "YES" means getting up and acting on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you

It's really a Catch-22: It's easy to give when you feel abundantly endowed, but you only feel that way when you give, not before!

I release my fear of lack and accept the abundance and prosperity of the universe

You are the wind beneath my wings

Life goes on, and truth changes. This just happens to be the way life is. What was once true is often no longer true just a little later. Yesterday's truth is today's bullshit. Even yesterday's liberating insight is today's jail of stale explanation

You can't harbor one time your thought and experience a different kind of existance

Being willing is more important than being right. Paul Tillich called this willingness "the courage to be" and was careful to differentiate it from bravery due to a strong will. We do not need will power, we need willingness. Will power is at the heart of the life poisoning systems we are sick of and sick from. Awareness of that being that exists underneath and prior to the rules of order, and identification with that being, is the way out of the trap. That being is always willing. The self pushing and self-condemnation that comes out of "letting your conscience be your guide" is a vicious circle. Don't les your conscience be your guide. Follow any goddamned thing else but your conscience

Metaphors deliver a message in a better way: What really happens is that content and contexts split. Feed them a little gossip, some details, the specifics of this or that person, in this or that situation, tell them a story, or even better - a secret and presto: you can shift the person's frames and contexts without them ever suspecting.

Life isn't fair and this is good news

Consistent effort creates luck

NOBODY cares for your success

Στη ζωή πρέπει να κοιτάς τρία βήματα μπροστά και ένα πίσω

"And in the Valley of Tears I had only met insomnia. But once the golden gate enlightened me the holy path,I stepped in just to find my salvation. May i have not found that, but what i hope I found was wisdom. Led by the light of everlasting torch of hell I followed the signs on the sand of the otherworld.As I felt the warmth of it's embrace I realised i didn't belong to the realm of this 'humanity'. On it's hypocrisy, I claim truth. On it's life, I claim death." gc

Για να αεριστεί ένα δωμάτιο δεν αρκεί ο παλιός αέρας να βγει έξω. Πρέπει να μπει και καινούργιος καθαρός αέρας μέσα.

As soon as you ask yourself whether you should or you shouldn't, that means you should

The need for romance is not a sign of female weakness. It is an essential part of the stimulus women need for fully satisfying sex.

The value of humor in attack is incomparable because humor is a socially acceptable form of criticism, a catharsis that combines memorability with respectability.

Ο κόσμος ανήκει στους υπομονετικούς

Η προετοιμασία είναι μητέρα της τύχης.

Ο τρόπος για να πετύχεις είναι να διπλασιάσεις το ποσοστό της αποτυχίας σου.

Αν κάνεις αυτό που έκανες πάντα, θα έχεις αυτό που είχες πάντα

Η καλύτερη εποχή να φυτεύψεις ένα δέντρο είναι πριν από 25 χρόνια. Η επόμενη καλύτερη είναι σήμερα.

Ο φόβος είναι μια πρόσκληση σε μεγαλύτερη ασφάλεια με περισσότερη ενέργεια

Όσο λιγότερο βιάζεσαι τόσο περισσότερο χρόνο έχεις.

Δεν είσαι υποχρεωμένος να είσαι τέλειος για να έχεις την τέλεια σχέση

Law of Control: We feel good to outselves to the exact degree to which we feel we are in control of our own lives. We feel bad about ourselves or we feel out of harmony to ourselves to the exact degree to which we feel we are controlled by outer circumstances, by other people, by things beyond our control.

Η σοφία συνιστάται στην αναγνώριση του τι μπορούμε να κάνουμε οι ίδιοι και σε ποια σημεία χρειαζόμαστε την βοήθεια των άλλων

Law of cause and effect: For every effect in our lives there is a specific cause. If we don't like the eccefts we re enjoying in our lives it is up to us to identify the cause and change the cause. Irrespect to whether or not we know what the causes are, there is always a reason for everything that happens. There is in fact no such thing as an accident. If we can identify the causes we can control the effects and make them anything we want.

Law of Belief: Whatever we believe becomes our reality. We are the sum total result of all of our belief systems. Beliefs form a screen of logic and prejudices through which we see the entire world. We never allow in any information that is insonsistent to our beliefs. Even if we have beliefs that are totally inconsistent with reality, to the degree that we believe things to be true, they become true to us. Most of our limiting beliefs are not based on reality at all.

Law of expectations: Everything we expect with confidence becomes our own self fullfilling prophecy. We are continually acting as our own fortune tellers by the way we talk to ourselves about how we think things are going to turn our in our lives.

Αληθινός φίλος είναι εκείνος που λέει στους άλλους τα προτερήματά μας, και σε μας τα ελαττώματά μας.

Ο άνθρωπος που θέλει να διευθύνει μια ορχήστρα, θα πρέπει να γυρίσει την πλάτη του στον κόσμο.

Το ταξίδι της ζωής γίνεται σημαντικό και ξεκούραστο όταν στο ενδιάμεσο συναντάς ανθρώπους και επικοινωνείς μαζί τους.

Χωρίς όνειρα δεν αρχίζει τίποτα. Χωρίς ξαγρύπνια δεν τελειώνει τίποτα. (Τίποτα δεν αρχίζει χωρίς όνειρα. Τίποτα δεν τελειώνει χωρίς κόπο.)

Είναι προτιμότερο να προετοιμάζεσαι για μια ευκαιρία και να μην έλθει, παρά να έλθει μια ευκαιρία και να μην είσαι προετοιμασμένος. Για κάθε επιτυχία η προετοιμασία είναι η μητέρα της και πατέρας της η τόλμη.

The reward of suffering is experience.

The way to eliminate failure is to learn from it. Likewize, the only way to fail is to not learn from it

Law of attraction: Each human is a living magnet. We radiate thought energy and we invariably attract into our lives the people and the circumstances that harmonize with our dominant thoughts. If we wish to attract different people, circumstances, events and fortunes we have to change the content of our consicous mind.

Law of concetration: Whatever you dwell upon grows in your experience. Whatever you think about on an continuing basis becomes a part of youand a part of your experience. You become what you think about. The more you concetrate on it, the more you bring it into your life

Law of substitution: Because the conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time, either a positive or a negative one, if we consciously and deliberatelly substitue a positive thought for a negative thought and keep our mind focused on positive thoughs and ideas, on a person we want to be with the attributes we want to have, then that is what we'll grow in our lives

Within every setback or obstacle or disadvantage there is the seed of an equal or opposite or greater advantage or benefit. As long as you are looking for the benefit you cannot be seeing or worrying about the negative event or the setback.

Life is like a baseball game. The baseball game in life is different in that you are not only the butter but you are also your own ampire. Even if you are a lousy butter if you stand there and you swing long enough and you swing hard enough by the law of averages you must hit a home run. And remember, no one can even call you out but yourself.

Πάντα να θυμάσαι ότι ακόμα και το σκοτάδι ολόκληρου του κόσμου δεν μπορεί να σβήσει το φως ενός μικρού κεριού. Είτε λάμπεις πολύ είτε λάμπεις λίγο, σου εύχομαι το 2005 να κάνει τη φλόγα σου ακόμα πιο δυνατή. Καλή χρονιά σε όλους

The "lucky" people in life are those who have been forces to face things in their lives that we all hope we will never have to face - things like losing a job, the death of a beloved one, divorce, bunkruptcy, illness. Once you have handled any of those things, you emerge a much stronger person. I know of few people who have experienced loss and haven't felt a large measure of pride in themselves at finding a way to make their lives work inspite of their adversity. They have discovered that security is not "having things"; it is "handling things"

Decision Truth 1: Focus on the no-lose model I can't lose regardless of the outcome of the decision I make. The world is a place of opportunity , and I look forward to opportunities for learning and growing that either path gives me

The real source of our pessimism is not our fear that the world around us is hairy, but rather the much bigger danger that our own beastly feelings are beyond our ability to control

Our capacity for optimism depends upon trusting that we can experience a range of emotions without getting stuck

We cannot control the world but we can control our reactions to it

Security is not having money. Security is knowing that you can do without it

Character is always the result of practising self discipline and developing the habbit in the long view in decisions concerning health, wealth, relationships and reputation. Character comes from thinking always of living with each of your decisions for the next 20 years

Unshakeable self confidence comes from unshakeable commitment to your values - when deep down inside yourself you know that you will never violate your highest principles you experience a deep sense of personal power that enables you to deal openly and honestly and with complete self confidence in almost every human situation

One who doesn't understand your silence will probably not understand your words.

Power comes from clarity. Clarity builds its own momentum

The only way to break the perpetual circle is to cuddle.

Yep ... creative persistence ...

(based on)... frabs!

Be calm and learn..."you haven't turned me on at all". ... scene

Every man is a damn fool at least five minutes a day. Wisdom consists of not exceeding the limits

A person needs at intervals to separate from family and companions and go to new places. One must go without familiars in order to be open to influences, to change.

Η φλόγα ενός κεριού δεν μειώνεται καθόλου όταν ανάβει μία άλλη.

Η πιο σκοτεινή ώρα είναι αυτή ακριβώς πριν την αυγή.

Δεν απέτυχα. Απλώς βρήκα δέκα χιλιάδες μεθόδους που δεν δουλεύουν

Αν πρέπει να αμφιβάλλεις για κάτι, αμφέβαλλε για τους δικούς σου περιορισμούς

Ο κάθε άνθρωπος χρειάζεται το φανταστικό νησί του

Οι περισσότεροι περιορισμοί μας είναι φανταστικοί.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

When we accept responsibility we look to the future and to what we can do. When we blame we look to the past and to what cannot be undoned and changed. Responsibility looks forward, blame looks backword.

Like a beacon on the horizon to aim for when sailing on a stormy sea, the illusion of the island allows us to look beyond the menacing problems (and the waves of emotions they produce) that we're currently battling toward a future in which we will be standing securely on dry land once more.

I am here on this planet for experiencing and I want to be a creator, not a victim. I am willing to learn and keep learning. I am willing to experiment with life. I am more interested in discovery than carefulness. I can depend on my alertness more than my certainty that I am right. I am more interested in learning than in protection

It is always darkness before dawn

ask -> tell -> ask -> do -> tell -> feel